Why Self-Care Should be top of our list right now.

"What is the ONE THING I should be doing right now to protect, shape or pivot my business?"

The #milliondollarquestion I seem to be asked by most clients at the moment when they get on a coaching call with me is:
“What is the ONE THING I should be doing right now to protect, shape or pivot my business?”

And my question (not answer) in response is: “What are you doing right now for yourself?”

At this very moment when we are living in uncertainty, chaos and unchartered territory, we need to come back to ourselves for so many good reasons, and right now I will give you just one because I believe it is a powerful example of why ‘self-care is king’

So, picture yourself as the decision maker. The one people look up to. The one that holds the purse strings, has the final say on HR, the voice of reason that people – staff, clients or contemporaries look up to and admire – and imagine making the next big decision as to how to move forward, should that offer go live or is that pricing structure right.

Now imagine making the decision from a place of ‘lack’.

And what do I mean by ‘lack’? A lack of energy. Sleep. Time. Calm. Quiet. A lack of exercise and healthy food (which never results in us feeling great about ourselves); a lack of time with the family (when everyone else seems to be sunning themselves in the garden). A lack of luxury time watching a film or reading a book. A lack of whatever it is that fills your cup up, keeping you feeling at the top of your game; igniting your thought process and clear vision. In other words, imagine making the decision from a place of stress, exhaustion, tiredness, worry.

Now imagine making the same decision from a place where clarity of mind, calmness and sense wins out over tiredness, lack and frantic energy.

Imagine how much clearer a decision making process or leadership act will feel when you have prioritised YOU so that when it comes to making wise, clever, insightful and great ‘next step’ decisions you are making from a place of internal power rather than external burn out?

I was on a coaching call last week where global thought leaders and experts in this coaching field were discussing how we should be advising our clients and this was confirmed for me: self-care and self-prioritisation first. Then care for your staff. Then your customers. Because when the first move / decision / step at the top of the chain is made from a place of abundance, with clarity of mind; knowledge that you are rooted and have checked in with your own gut feelings, listened to your intuition, the outcome is bigger, better and more reasoned that when it is made from a place of ‘spin’ and overwhelm.

Imagine how much clearer a decision making process or leadership act will feel when you have prioritised YOU so that when it comes to making wise, clever, insightful and great ‘next step’ decisions you are making from a place of internal power rather than external burn out?

Never has it been more important to invest in YOU! Time spent nurturing yourself; reading a book peacefully; enjoying dinner with the family or indulging in a few episodes of a box set. Imagine a walk in the sun with the dog (if you have one), cuddles with children, a glass of wine with a partner with a candle lit. Things that we almost naturally deny ourselves when times are stressful as we feel we have to be in our strong masculine energy of ‘doing, doing, doing’ rather than channelling and opening up our feminine energy space which is about receiving, communication, connection and self-nurturing. Because by dipping out and allowing yourself time, you are in effect also giving yourself permission to then return to your work and go ‘all in’.

What better timing for a feature in which I listed my Top 25 Self-Care Tips to hit the shelves? The incredible Jennifer Morgan interviewed me for this feature before the world changed. But there is nothing new in my opinions and sentiments. So read it! Put YOU at the top of the list so everyone else can join you there. This is how we lead in times like now. As I say to all my clients “we are told to put our own oxygen mask on first so that we can then help others.” Hop to it!

Declutter Magazine, April 2020: feature by Jennifer Morgan